Losing And Rediscovering Yourself in Motherhood

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Do you feel you’re losing yourself in motherhood and have a deep desire to rediscover yourself in motherhood? If the answer is yes, you’re not alone.

The sense of loss of identity is common in motherhood because the transition to motherhood is a massive transformation that may not be easy to accept and process.


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When it comes to identity, there’s a common misconception. In our society, identity is tied to our roles: Mom, spouse, daughter, and professional. But identity is much more than that. It’s the core of who we are, our essence. Because the concept of identity is tied to our roles, it makes sense that the transformation in motherhood makes you feel you’re losing yourself. Motherhood takes over, and you may think that the rest of you is completely gone. You long to rediscover yourself in motherhood.

If you’re feeling this way, know that it’s your perception based mostly on societal values. Motherhood changes you, but not the core of who you are. Motherhood will undoubtedly change your life: Your habits, how you think, how you feel, how you perceive the world. These are massive changes, but they don’t take away anything from you. The idea of identity loss brings a negative sense and a feeling of not knowing who you are anymore.

Many people talk about how you can rediscover yourself in motherhood, but I have a different take on this. I see motherhood as a better alignment with who you are. Your essence wants to be expressed, and motherhood allows you to release all the blockages that prevent you from becoming who you are. So, in a sense, you can’t rediscover yourself because the self you were before was not your identity but a construct based on societal values. Does it make sense?

You don’t lose and rediscover yourself in motherhood. You align with your true self.

Motherhood allows you to heal your wounds, let go of your generational baggage, and align with your soul path. When you reframe the idea of losing and rediscovering yourself in motherhood, you get a bird’s eye view of your situation. You can see the opportunity to transform yourself and better align with your essence, core, and true identity. The person you were before is gone, but it’s not a loss. It’s an opportunity if this concept feels a little foggy; let me tell you a little bit about how I found myself in motherhood.

My transition to motherhood was challenging. I had a traumatic birth and postpartum depression and anxiety, and I did feel that I was losing myself in motherhood. This experience brought up unresolved trauma and emotions from my past. I worked to heal and break generational cycles, and the person who came out of all this was new. I didn’t rediscover myself in motherhood. I found my true self in motherhood, the person I’m meant to be.

In addition to healing myself, I was called to help other moms-to-be and moms and found my calling as a mom coach and energy healer. The transition to motherhood was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening, my healing, and my alignment with my soul path. You don’t lose and rediscover yourself in motherhood. Motherhood has an incredible healing power if you open up to it, and it allows you to become the best version of yourself, which integrates parts of your past self and your present self. It’s a new YOU.

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